Self-determination...this is a principal I endeavor to live out everyday. Making my own decisions about who and what I am. As a little black girl growing up in the 70's, I was constantly faced with covert and overt messages that I was not pretty or that I was not good enough. Living in America today, one can feel the same way when watching the the disparities in the way we are treated and the obstacles that seem to constantly be put in our way.
I have learned to define myself, for myself. I spent 2022 deciding that I have other options for where I call home and established residency in another country. It was freeing and empowering, but also lonely. My family did not decide to join me on my journey, even though I was making the move for all of us to have this opportunity.
When I decided to make moves that others did not understand, I lost some friends and gained some new ones. People will be drawn to the light within or repelled by it- either way I have no control over the reactions of others. My task is to live fully in the knowledge of who I am and who I am striving to become- to myself, to my family and to the community that I serve.
Spend 2024 finding ways to define yourself and take control of your destiny. Whether you do something big or small, take the first steps towards self-determination. Working with a therapist can help. If you are ready to embark on the journey to self discovery, reach out and schedule an appointment.
Make Kujichagulia a principle to strive for 365 days a year.